Foster Care and Adoption

You can feel grateful for your family and still struggle with parts of your experience. Both can be true.


There isn't one way to experience foster care or adoption. Every family's circumstances, relationships, and history are different, and the emotions that come with them can be just as varied.

Our therapists support individuals and families navigating challenges such as:

  • The emotional challenges of foster parenting: Managing uncertainty, shifting expectations, complicated relationships, and the emotional demands of caring for a child whose future may be unclear.

  • Adoption-related grief and loss: Making space for the losses that can accompany adoption, including separation from birth family, cultural connections, familiar environments, or the family experience you once imagined.

  • Identity and belonging: Exploring questions about who you are, where you come from, and how your adoption or foster care experience has shaped your sense of self.

  • Attachment and trust: Navigating challenges with emotional connection, vulnerability, trust, and developing relationships that feel safe and supportive.

  • Parenting children with trauma histories: Understanding how early adversity, disrupted relationships, and difficult experiences may influence a child's emotions, behaviors, and needs.

  • The transition to adoptive parenthood: Adjusting to new family dynamics, changing expectations, and the realities of parenting after adoption.

  • Uncertainty and lack of control: Coping with court decisions, changing case plans, reunification goals, adoption timelines, or circumstances that are largely outside your control.

  • Relationships with birth families: Navigating open adoption, family contact, boundaries, complicated emotions, and the different relationships that may be part of your family's story.

  • Burnout and caregiver stress: Feeling emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed by responsibilities, or guilty for needing time and support for yourself.

  • Family relationships and communication: Managing differences in parenting approaches, supporting siblings, navigating extended family relationships, and having difficult conversations about adoption or foster care.

  • Anxiety, guilt, and conflicting emotions: Feeling pressure to be grateful, patient, or endlessly resilient while privately experiencing sadness, anger, frustration, or uncertainty.

  • Life transitions and changing family roles: Adjusting to placement changes, reunification, permanency decisions, or new understandings of your family and identity over time.

You don't have to be in the middle of a crisis to benefit from therapy. Sometimes, you simply need a place where you can talk openly about the parts of foster care or adoption that feel complicated, without worrying about being judged or misunderstood.